Let’s talk about sex—but not the way you’re used to. We often treat sex as either a taboo topic or a casual pastime, rarely exploring its deeper potential. But Eastern traditions like Taoism and Tantra see sexual energy as something far greater: a natural, creative force that can fuel everything from your relationships to your career—if you know how to work with it.
Sexual Energy Isn’t Just About Sex
Think of sexual energy as your body’s “life force”—the same buzz you feel when you’re deeply attracted to someone, lost in creativity, or totally absorbed in a project. Eastern philosophies teach that this energy (called chi in Taoism or kundalini in yoga) flows through everyone, not just during sex but in everyday life .
Why this matters: When you suppress or waste this energy (through guilt, shame, or mindless habits), you might feel drained or stuck. But when you channel it intentionally, it can boost your focus, confidence, and even your joy.
The Big Misunderstanding: Shame vs. Vitality
Many of us grew up with mixed messages:
- Religion or culture may have taught that desire is “sinful” or dirty.
- Modern media reduces sex to either performance or pornography, ignoring its spiritual side.
It’s time to flip this script. Sexuality isn’t just physical—it’s a path to self-awareness and connection. The goal isn’t to avoid pleasure but to experience it fully, without guilt or overindulgence .
Try this: Next time you feel desire, pause. Instead of judging it or acting on autopilot, ask: Could this energy be used for something else? (More on that below.)
How to Channel Sexual Energy (Without Becoming a Monk)
You don’t need to give up sex or pleasure. Instead, try these practical steps:
Redirect the Energy
Ever notice how a crush can make you more productive? That’s sexual energy at work. When you feel turned on or restless:
- Move it: Exercise, dance, or clean—physical activity helps transmute the energy.
- Create: Write, paint, or brainstorm. Many artists and entrepreneurs tap into this drive .
Breathe Through Desire
- Sit comfortably and take slow, deep breaths.
- Imagine the energy rising from your pelvis to your heart or head (like warmth moving upward).
- Focus on a goal or project you’re passionate about.
This isn’t about repression—it’s about choice. You’re training yourself to decide where your energy goes .
Reframe Your Relationship with Pleasure
- For solo play: Masturbation isn’t “bad,” but mindless habits can leave you foggy. Try slowing down—focus on sensation, not just release.
- With a partner: Sex becomes richer when you prioritize connection over performance. Try holding eye contact or syncing your breathing .
Enjoy it: More Than Just Better Sex
When you stop fighting your natural energy, you might notice:
- Less anxiety: Shame dissolves when you accept desire as part of being human.
- More creativity: Sexual energy is linked to your sacral chakra (the center of passion and ideas) .
- Deeper relationships: Partners who see sex as sacred, not just transactional. report stronger bonds .
Don’t reject your sexual energy, respect it!
Sexual energy is the energy of aliveness itself.
Barbara Carrellas
Start small. Notice when sexual energy arises today. Could it fuel a workout, a tough conversation, or a creative burst? The goal isn’t perfection—it’s awareness.
This is your energy. How will you use it?
